You Can Generate Attraction Regardless Of Your Looks

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as:

Some guys think they’re too old.

Some men think they are too fat.

Some men think they are too short.

They could be too ugly.

Many men feel hopeless when it comes to attracting the woman they desire, because of such feelings.

But lucky for all of us – this simply isn’t the case.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 – You must be good looking to attract women.

Look around this world and notice the different types of men, who date beautiful women, you will find this myth is not true.

As a general rule of thumb, I like to say: It’s important to look good, but it’s not important to be good looking!

Is there a difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 – Women Think Like Men Do

It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.

Take for example; you have a zit on your nose that feels so big that you are sure everyone notices it there. However, in reality the pimple is under your skin and not viewable to everyone else in the world.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

WRONG.

Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.

Women find attraction by how a man makes them feel, more so than how he may physically appear. This explains their attraction to social status and confidence. Men who make them laugh, are good at what they do attract women. Physical looks has very little to do with whether a woman is attracted to a man.

Myth #3 – Women Notice A Man’s Uncertainty And Insecurity

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

No matter what it is, we see it!

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it.

It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.

You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is when seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to begin to see you in a whole new light – despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.

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